2 Message Mistakes That Make Girls Cringe
All the marks of a worthy man:
- Crafting a great first message
- Writing an awesome online dating profile
- Knowing what not to say in a profile…
It all means shit if he has bad grammar.
At best, bad grammar and spelling mistakes are really distracting. When mistakes keep jumping off the page, it makes it harder for girls focus on what a guy is saying. Kinda like this:
This is exactly how I feel when I see the wrong “your/you’re” written repeatedly in a guy’s profile or message.
To girls, first impressions are everything in online dating.
Bad grammar or multiple spelling mistakes make a guy seem careless, lazy, and stupid. It’s a huge turnoff.
When a guy can’t be bothered to spell or write correctly, the impression we get is that he doesn’t care about doing anything well.
Girls aren’t interested in those careless, lazy, stupid guys. We’d rather look for smart, caring guys.
If you’re here, I know you’re one of the good ones – even if spelling and grammar aren’t second nature to you. That’s OK. You don’t have to know it all. You just have to know how to fix the most common mistakes. It’s worth it.
Good grammar is a huge turn on.
There’s a reason this card’s been pinned 26,000+ times, emailed more than 14,000 times, and shared by girls all over Facebook. We live in a world full of lazy, abbreviated texts and dumb wall posts.
When you make an effort to write thoughtfully and properly, it’s really fucking hot.
Start by avoiding the two worst offenders:
1. Choosing the right your/you’re.
This common grammar mistake runs rampant in online dating:
When I see writing like this, I can’t pay attention to what the guy’s saying – no matter how well-written the rest of his profile or message might be. I just want to scream, “MOLE!!! It’s a bloody MOLE!!!”
How to avoid the MOLE! effect:
“You’re” is a contraction of the words “you” and “are.” The apostrophe (’) takes the place of the “a” from the word “are.” It combines the two words into one word that’s faster to say.
"You’re hot" is the shorter way to say, “You are hot.”
"You’re smart" is the shorter way to say, “You are smart.”
“Your” is possessive. It shows possession – having or owning something.
“Your hot body...” indicates that you have the hot body. It’s yours.
“Your smart brain...” indicates that the brain belongs to you. It’s yours.
If you’re not sure which your/you’re to use:
Think whether or not the sentence would still make sense if you wrote out “you are.”
“You_ learning this.”
It does make sense to say, “You are learning this.” So it’s correct to use “you’re.”
“You_ first message.”
It does not make sense to say, “You are first message.” So the correct word is “your.”
2. Tricks for better spelling.
Bad spelling is equally distracting. I just cannot take a guy’s profile or message seriously when it has spelling mistakes. I automatically start reading it with this voice:
(My favorite part starts at 2:20)